INVENTORY OF INCIDENT WITH ALIYA ON 5/21/2022
First, I didn’t communicate honestly: When Rebekah asked me early that morning to help her with the kids by taking them fishing, I should have said “NO,” and explained that I didn’t sleep well, that I had a head/ear-ache, and that I needed to get more rest Second, I didn’t take care of my critical needs first—I didn’t take my ADHD medication before doing anything else. I didn’t have any water in easily accessible—and was worried that hunting down water and taking the time to take my medication would be a burden on Rebekah—actually, I was afraid that she would get mad at me for taking too long to take the kids fishing—so I went upstairs to start the process of helping Rebekah without taking my medication. THE ABOVE TWO ITEMS SHOW THAT I AM CODEPENDENT: I didn’t communicate my true needs, wants, expectations, preferences, commitments, or feelings to Rebekah because they would have required that I say “NO” to her, and I am so codependent that I almost always say “YES” in order to avoi